Let's talk about Body Positivity

“I can’t because I’m too fat.”

“I hope she gains weight and becomes fat and ugly.”

“Have you seen the new girl? She’s skin and bones!”

“Look how bulky her arms are, she looks like a man.”

Sound familiar? Yeah… ouch. The amount of casual body-bashing that slips into conversations is kind of wild when you stop and notice it. And sometimes the meanest comments don’t even come from other people - they come from ourselves.

Here’s the kicker though: it’s not really our fault. We’ve been spoon-fed the lie that only one type of body is “valuable,” and everything else? Well, apparently not worth much. But here’s the truth bomb: your worth has nothing to do with your waistline.

Take a second to let that sink in. Because honestly? Your weight is going to fluctuate - a lot. That’s just part of being a human who eats food, lives life, and maybe occasionally stress-orders Uber Eats.

And yet, when our bodies change, we often turn into our own worst bullies. But let me ask you: would you ever say the cruel things you say to yourself to your bestie? Didn’t think so. 

So why are we so comfortable saying them to ourselves?

The Pole Studio Mirror Trap

Walking into the studio, you know the drill: mirrors everywhere, bodies everywhere, and a perfect opportunity for the comparison monster to crawl out of its cave.

As someone with curves, I’ve definitely had those what if thoughts. What if I looked like her? What if I was smaller? But here’s the problem—those thoughts just feed the myth that “skinnier is better.” Spoiler alert: it’s not.

But also—fatter isn’t “better” either. Every body is valid. Every body can be strong, sexy, graceful, clumsy, powerful, bendy, bulky, soft, or all of the above. (Sometimes all in the same pole combo!)

Instead of obsessing over how our bodies look, what if we focused on what they can do? Because flying around a pole, defying gravity, and clinging on for dear life with just your thighs? That’s pretty epic no matter what size jeans you wear.

What Body Positivity Isn’t

There’s this idea floating around that body positivity is just for people with bigger bodies. Or that it means you have to love every inch of yourself 24/7, rainbows and glitter included. Or that thin people need not apply.

Nope. Hard pass. That’s not it.

Body positivity isn’t about toxic self-love or faking sunshine when you’re actually having a “meh” day in the mirror. It’s not about exclusion either. It’s about balance. It’s about acceptance. It’s about not letting your reflection dictate your worth.

So What Is It Then?

Glad you asked. Body positivity is about:

Self-acceptance: Cutting yourself some slack and remembering your body is on your team.

Compassion: Talking to yourself like you would to your ride-or-die.

Representation: Recognizing that beauty doesn’t come in one size - it comes in all of them.

Permission: To change, to rest, to grow, to wobble, to shine.

And hey - sometimes you’ll even catch yourself in the mirror and think, “Okayyyy, who is this hottie?” That’s not vanity - that’s just you finally seeing yourself clearly.

Why Representation Matters

When we only see one body type celebrated, everyone else gets the message that they’re “less than.” But the moment you see someone who looks like you - on stage, in media, in your fitness space - it’s like a lightbulb goes off.

Representation whispers: You belong here. You’re valid. You matter.

And honestly? That’s the whole point.

Your body isn’t a problem to be solved. It’s your partner-in-crime, your adventure buddy, your ride-or-die through this wild little journey called life. Celebrate what it can do, laugh about its quirks, and remember—every body (yep, yours too) is worthy of love, respect, and a little bit of sparkle ✨

A blog by Amy Rosvally ❤️ 

Photo credit: @TheHuman.Gallery